My man, the one to whom said I do, which actually means I do and I don't and everything in between.
He is my chosen other.
My man does not reduce me. He receives me. This is an act of resistance in these battle-line drawn times.
For all that is made of passion and lust and the profit to be gained,
he does not surrender.
I am fully present to him and not just my parts.
In a room that shouts to him, take, take, take, he holds me close,
never demanding anything but us.
I am invited into the room, and into him, fully me.
There are no conditions. There are no blind eyes. He knows me completely and he still beckons.
When so much pushes in demanding him to win, to control, and dominate to be all that a man should be, he relaxes and just calls.
Though he is immersed in a sense of my wonder and has no question for his desire, he knows that this does not make him. He frees my curves and edges and does it with an unassuming confidence that comes from a knowing.
To dominate is destructive, to receive is love. For when two human beings can be and stay in one place, when two human beings can be defined, not by the measures they take, but by the presence they give, this is the ground of love.
As much as others seek to struggle and strike, to define and take possession in lines drawn black and white, life is found in the freedom to receive - no patriarchy, no gender.
My man is a warrior of brawn and brain. He calls to others of this knowing. The day will come when love's definition will be delivered with out strings and all will be fully received.
It is in knowing and owning our ability to freely be and receive that freedom can flourish. When he does not possess me and I do not possess him, we make our stand - the stand that pushes against all that would try. For love's ripple knows no bound.
My warrior stands, open and free, as do I.
In these moments of society's shattered and tattered places, the we, that is the us, will be looking only towards love. This is our act of #resistance
Melinda is a recovering "normal" seeker, who is often distracted by unexpected moments of nature's beauty or questioning children